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The Lost Art of the Love Note

Today on the Rachel Ray Show, her guest was Garth Callaghan. You may remember his story, as he is the dad that was diagnosed with kidney cancer who decided to write inspirational notes to his daughter, on napkins, and put them in her lunch. If you haven’t had the chance to hear the whole story, Google him and read this not only inspirational, but touching story. He wanted to make sure that his 14 year old daughter had a note, everyday, in her lunch until she graduated from high school. With the uncertainty of his cancer, he wanted to make sure that she had his thoughts, his quotes, and the ability to still have a part of him should he pass away before she graduated.

This reminded me of something my parents used to do. When I was growing up, my dad worked first shift and my mom worked second shift. In order to make sure that they had solid communication, they would sit down and write each other a note, before they would leave for work. This was a note separate from any daily updates or “Honey-Do” lists. It was always signed, “XX, OO, —“.  I believe this is one of the things that kept their marriage vibrant for nearly 40 years.

How many times do we take the time posting to Facebook, Twitter or other social media sites? Do we ever take the time to sit down, with pen in hand and write a “Love Note”? Let’s not wait to tell those we love how we feel. Let’s take time each day.

Over the next 40 days, I am going to prepare and give a “Love Note” to my husband and kids, to not only let them know how much I love them, but to tell them why. I am going to challenge each of you to do the same. You can write your note to anyone–parents, siblings, best friends. Anyone that you choose that is important in your life. I’m going to use Post-It Notes rather than a napkin, but any unique canvas–lunch bags, notecards, etc., could work! If you drop a note in the mail everyday, because you don’t see your loved one daily, that will work too! Get creative!

Let me know how you are sharing your “Love Notes” and how they are being received. Let me know how it’s changing your relationships! Let’s see how many people we can get to participate in this “Love Note” challenge! Share this blog with all your family and friends!

Remember, it’s the Choices that you make and the Chances that you take that can make all the difference in the world!

Time for an “N’T”-ectomy

“I can’t”, “I won’t”, “I couldn’t”, “I shouldn’t”, “I wouldn’t”, “I don’t”…

I realized today that what stands between most people and the realization of their goals, dreams, and aspirations is “N’T”. If we expand it to it’s full form, it’s the word NOT. As in “I can not”, “I will not”, “I could not”, “I shall not”, “I do not”.

Most road blocks or excuses that individuals throw into their own paths usually start with one of these phrases. Think about how many of them we use on a daily basis.

“I can’t get to the gym because…”, “I won’t be able to go to that seminar because…”, “I couldn’t get that book you told me about because my internet was down…”, “I shouldn’t stop making phone calls, but…”, “I wouldn’t want to bother anyone…”, “I don’t want to, I’m not comfortable…”

If in fact, we are not serious about reaching our goals, and the “N’T”‘s keep coming up, be honest with yourself, take the pressure off of yourself, and understand you really don’t want that goal, need that goal, or have any desire to achieve that goal…and create new goals.

If however, you are just not willing to remove the “N’T”‘s from your vocabulary, but you truly want to achieve your goals, you have officially found yourself at a cross roads. It’s impossible to tell yourself “you can’t”, “you won’t”, “you couldn’t”, “you shouldn’t”, or “you don’t” and reach your goals. Just like it’s not possible to SMILE and speak a negative statement. Or scowl and speak a positive statement. The brain is solid that way–positives can’t support negatives and negatives can’t support positives.

If you want to get positive, get results, reach your goals…it’s time of an “N’T”-ectomy! NOW!

If you are scared, doubtful, lacking confidence, it’s up to you to psyche yourself up! No one can do it for you. This is where your chatter in your head has to support you and what you are trying to achieve. Your thoughts and how they affect you, the rest of your team, your family, your income, can only be changed by and controlled by you.

Be quick to identify with what is causing you to want to throw in an “N’T”—put the feeling out there, then put a big, old, BUT before any “N’T”—watch what happens…”I am doubting my abilities right now, but I know I CAN…”–REPEAT…REPEAT…pretty soon, the first part of the sentence will get dropped, because you can’t believe you CAN and doubt at the same time. It takes practice and discipline…but doesn’t everything? Know your thoughts, know your beliefs, be conscious with your choice of words, then you will take your results to the next level.

How many times have the “N’T”‘s kept you from reaching your goals? Go back and see if you talked yourself out of your own success with just the “N’T”‘s…Practice removing them from your vocabulary starting NOW!

It’s the CHOICES that we make and the Chances that we take…even with one little word that can make all the difference in our world!