Vol.2, Edition 2
Yesterday, I shared my thoughts and posed the question Whom and What do you honor? I hope you wrote some thoughts down and took some time to really think about that question. As I was thinking about it myself, I realized just how critical this exercise is. Now this post is going to be more cerebral than I would normally like it to be, but these exercises are so important as we form the foundation for our future CHOICES & CHANCES–it’s a must to push ourselves a bit. So it’s the exercise and the discovery within yourself that should get you jazzed today, not necessarily what I am sharing here.
First think about this…What we choose to honor, and why, develops our BELIEFS, which in turn guides us in how we make our choices and the chances we are willing to take. To me the word “honor” is powerful and precious. HONOR is not something that I am willing to dole out to just anything or anyone. You have to decide what power lies within the word for yourself. So, let’s start by putting it into context.
According to ARDictionary, honor is: That which rightfully attracts esteem, respect, or consideration; self-respect; dignity; courage; fidelity; especially, excellence of character; high moral worth; virtue; nobleness; specif., in men, integrity; uprightness; trustworthiness; in women, purity; chastity.
You may have written many things that you honor such as God, your parents, your spouse, your country, yourself, other people’s wishes, etc., etc. Now, one by one, go through your list and write down WHY you HONOR those things with those definitions in mind. You may find that some of the things you have written are things you respect a great deal, but maybe not to a level of honor. For example, I respect money, but I do not honor it. I may respect a friend, but I honor my husband.
What is it about the things you wrote down that you believe are right, just, true, virtuous or deserving of reverence? Why are they appropriate for you?
As you are writing, you will find that most of what you are writing is based on your BELEIFS…BELIEFS are, according to FreeDictionary, the mental act, condition, or habit of placing trust or confidence in another: 2. Mental acceptance of and conviction in the truth, actuality, or validity of something 3. Something believed or accepted as true, especially a particular tenet or a body of tenets accepted by a group of persons.
How did we get these beliefs? Where did they come from? Are they your own? Did you form them based on what you were told by another person? Did they come from your own experience?
Over the course of our lifetimes we have ingested information presented to us every minute of every day about ideas, people, religion, government and on and on. We find that information in books, TV, media, personal experiences, family members, teachers, religious figures, etc., etc. We have stored all of that information into our main data base, which is our mind. At times we have tested that information, and have chosen which to accept as a true belief or that which we reject.
Somewhere along the line we have established our CORE beliefs–the Biggies! The beliefs that tell us what we stand for, what we are passionate about, what gives us substance and direction. THOSE are the BELIEFS that will tell us WHAT AND WHOM we HONOR and WHY. From what we HONOR, will guide our CHOICES and CHANCES.
We will have some beliefs that we carry with us our whole life through. We may find along the way that our beliefs change as our experiences change or as we gain new knowledge. Sometimes our beliefs become outdated for our own lives. The beliefs we have when we are in our teens are very different from when we are in our 40’s or 60’s. AND THAT IS ALL GOOD! We are going to change, be enlightened, get new data, experience new things, choose to live differently and it’s 100% OK to change our minds.
As you have done just these two exercises you have probably started to learn a lot more about yourself…what’s important to you, what beliefs have driven many of the choices you have already made in your life, how you’ve ended up where you are, what beliefs have effected the chances you have taken (or not). Self awareness is absolutely critical because your choices and chances must be driven by what YOU believe, not what someone else tells you to believe. Take the time to get in touch with yourself!
Tune in again tomorrow as we take our list of what we Honor and realize the OBEDIENCE that is required to be in harmony with our own CHOICES & CHANCES to live truly fulfilled lives!