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Vol.2, Edition 2

Yesterday, I shared my thoughts and posed the question Whom and What do you honor?  I hope you wrote some thoughts down and took some time to really think about that question.  As I was thinking about it myself, I realized just how critical this exercise is.  Now this post is going to be more cerebral than I would normally like it to be, but these exercises are so important as we form the foundation for our future CHOICES & CHANCES–it’s a must to push ourselves a bit.  So it’s the exercise and the discovery within yourself that should get you jazzed today, not necessarily what I am sharing here. 

First think about this…What we choose to honor, and why, develops our BELIEFS, which in turn guides us in  how we make our choices and  the chances we are willing to take.  To me the word “honor” is powerful and precious.  HONOR is not something that I am willing to dole out to just anything or anyone.  You have to decide what power lies within the word for yourself.  So, let’s start by putting it into context. 

According to ARDictionary, honor is:   That which rightfully attracts esteem, respect, or consideration; self-respect; dignity; courage; fidelity; especially, excellence of character; high moral worth; virtue; nobleness; specif., in men, integrity; uprightness; trustworthiness; in women, purity; chastity.

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Definition: A nice sense of what is right, just, and true, with course of life correspondent thereto; strict conformity to the duty imposed by conscience, position, or privilege.

 You may have written many things that you honor such as God, your parents, your spouse, your country, yourself, other people’s wishes, etc., etc.  Now, one by one, go through your list and write down WHY you HONOR those things with those definitions in mind.  You may find that some of the things you have written are things you respect a great deal, but maybe not to a level of  honor.  For example, I respect money, but I do not honor it.  I may respect a friend, but I honor my husband.

What is it about the things you wrote down that you believe are right, just, true, virtuous or deserving of reverence?  Why are they appropriate for you?  

As you are writing, you will find that most of what you are writing is based on your BELEIFS…BELIEFS  are, according to FreeDictionary,  the mental act, condition, or habit of placing trust or confidence in another:  2. Mental acceptance of and conviction in the truth, actuality, or validity of something 3. Something believed or accepted as true, especially a particular tenet or a body of tenets accepted by a group of persons. 

How did we get these beliefs?  Where did they come from?  Are they your own?  Did you form them based on what you were told by another person?  Did they come from your own experience?  

Over the course of our lifetimes we have ingested  information presented to us every minute of every day about ideas, people, religion, government and on and on.  We find that information in books, TV, media, personal experiences, family members, teachers, religious figures, etc., etc.  We have stored all of that information into our main data base, which is our mind.  At times we have tested that information, and have chosen which to accept as a true belief or that which we reject.  

Somewhere along the line we have established our CORE beliefs–the Biggies!  The beliefs that tell us what we stand for, what we are passionate about, what gives us substance and direction.  THOSE are the BELIEFS that will tell us WHAT AND WHOM we HONOR and WHY.  From what we HONOR, will guide our CHOICES and CHANCES. 

We will have some beliefs that we carry with us our whole life through.  We may find along the way that our beliefs change as our experiences change or as we gain new knowledge.  Sometimes our beliefs become outdated for our own lives.  The beliefs we have when we are in our teens are very different from when we are in our 40’s or 60’s.  AND THAT IS ALL GOOD!  We are going to change, be enlightened, get new data, experience new things, choose to live differently and it’s 100% OK to change our minds.

As you have done just these two exercises you have probably started to learn a lot more about yourself…what’s important to you, what beliefs have driven many of the choices you have already made in your life, how you’ve ended up where you are, what beliefs have effected the chances you have taken (or not).  Self awareness is absolutely critical because your choices and chances must be driven by what YOU believe, not what someone else tells you to believe.  Take the time to get in touch with yourself!

Tune in again tomorrow as we take our list of what we Honor and realize the OBEDIENCE that is required to be in harmony with our own CHOICES & CHANCES to live truly fulfilled lives!

Vol. 2, Edition 1

Welcome to Choices & Chances!

Today marks the lift-off of a long-awaited dream…the fulfillment and physical manifestation of what has been one of those, “If I could do anything I want with my life it would be…” wishes.

I know that everyone can relate to that line of thinking.  We all do it.  We all have areas of our life that we would like to change to live a more fulfilled life.  It could be in our career choice, our family life, our love life, our health, our social circles, the list is almost endless.  So many of us will never act on those thoughts either out of fear, feeling that we can’t do it,  or we believe we have limitations that make it impossible.  Many will stay where they are at and convince themselves that’s all there is for them.

Well, TODAY, I am opening a venue of opportunity for all of us to connect in a community where you can get insights, in many forms, that helps you to realize for yourself, that no matter what your wishes are, it comes down to your own personal CHOICES & CHANCES–those you take and those you make!

Ten years ago, my journey began.  My eyes started opening to just how possible a fulfilled, accomplished, rewarding, love filled healthy life was.  I started realizing how many CHOICES & CHANCES I actually had and where I needed to begin.

January 27, 2000, my mother, who was 58 years old, with no diagnosed medical problems, passed away very suddenly.  It was very traumatic for our family.  Our lives were thrust into immediate change and the lesson that I learned over that first year was that TIME WAITS FOR NO ONE.  We know not the time nor the hour, so living and loving each day is not an option!  We can’t get time back so it’s up to us to either use it or lose it.

On January 27, 2004, my husband had an accident.  Once again, our family was thrust into immediate change.  Over the next 10 months he endured 2 surgeries and long hours of rehab and our family had to make many adjustments.  This time, the lesson was BEING PREPARED AND FLEXIBLE.  Anything can happen, on any day, and we have to take time to plan for sudden changes, put things in place to allow us some sense of security, when we do find ourselves in an emergency. 

October 6, 2009 was probably my most profound lesson… NEVER MAKE CHOICES OUT OF FEAR!  The unraveling of those decisions can make things even more complicated than they were before or leave one feeling even more in conflict than ever before.  In January 2009, I had accepted  a career position with a prestigious investment firm…and I had made that decision out of fear of not having money.  I convinced myself that I could adjust, I could meet the requirements for success in the company.for the security of the money to be made..the problem was though I had an interest in the field, it wasn’t my passion.  It wasn’t something that I felt so committed to that I would make big sacrifices in my time and family to carry out.  It truly was not a fit for me and it became more and more obvious as each day passed.    It took me to places of being so miserable that it took me nearly 2 months to recover physically.  Yes, your body does respond in negative ways when we are in deep conflict.

It was that week that while driving in my car, I flipped the radio station to a talk show where a woman was talking about her experience in which she had pushed herself so much for projects that were putting her in conflict that it landed her bedridden.  She explained how she knew at that point that she HAD to make changes.  She knew that she had to make a choice.  She knew that when she made that choice there would be no turning back. 

She proceeded to paint the picture of a cliff-diver, putting their toes at the end of the rock, looking down to the jagged cliffs below, and then while spreading arms wide, how those divers take the LEAP.  She explained in one profound statement how she wasn’t so much afraid of the leap, but how she had to TRUST GOD once she left the edge of the cliff that he would be there when she hit the water to help her swim!  Well, that statement hit me like a ton of rocks!  I figured out that I had made so many decisions in my lifetime with misaligned honor.

I have always been a believer in God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit, but I had always made my decisions in my life honoring MYSELF, and not placing my honor in God’s hands.  

I jumped out of the car when I got home and immediately started writing down my thoughts.  I  realized I had to start over from my very core and the place to begin, was to sit down, and focus on where my honor and trust truly needed to be placed to move forward.  I was so good at saying I believed and honored, but I soon discovered how much I didn’t  TRUST.  I read the words in the Bible, I listened to the words, but then did not take those words and INJECT them into my life.  I realized that while I was only a twinkle in someone else’s eyes, God had in mind what my talents would be, what my interests would be–my blueprint was already created.  The problem was, I wasn’t tuning in to Him to have him help me read and follow the plan.

It’s difficult to live between 2 worlds–the Divine and the Human, but if we start with a decision in which we know What and Whom we honor, then, and only then, can we can begin to make Choices & Chances for a truly fulfilled life. 

So, I ask you today, have you decided Whom and What you will honor with your life?  Take some time to ponder that thought today…and write it down…keep it someplace you can view often to remind you where to begin.  I hope you will share your thoughts with me and the others who will be reading this post so we can all connect and create a community filled with many who are CREATING THE LIFE THEY CAN’T WAIT TO LIVE!